How to Talk to Your Parents About Moving to a Care Home

For many children, this is one of the most delicate conversations they will ever have with their parents. The very idea of a “care home” may bring fears of losing independence, family closeness, or respect.

1. Begin with Empathy, Not a Decision

Instead of saying “We have decided…”, begin with “We are worried about your health and comfort, can we talk about it?”. This invites them into the decision instead of placing it upon them.

2. Acknowledge Their Feelings Openly

They may feel hurt, shocked, or even angry. Allow these reactions to come. A calm line like, “We are not sending you away; we are trying to ensure you are cared for properly” can gently reset the tone.

3. Explain the Practical Challenges Honestly

Share the reality of your work timings, travel, or health issues that prevent you from offering continuous supervision. When elders understand the practical constraints, they often become more understanding.

4. Visit the Care Home Together

A physical visit to Jaivika or any care home allows them to see the rooms, meet caregivers, hear the sounds, and observe the atmosphere. This transforms a frightening unknown into a real, warm place.

5. Involve a Trusted Doctor or Relative

Sometimes elders accept suggestions more easily from a doctor, family friend, or respected relative. A joint conversation can bring emotional balance and clarity.

6. Reassure Them About Continued Family Bond

Make it clear that moving into a care home does not mean losing family love. Explain how often you will visit or call, and how festivals and family events will still include them.

At Jaivika Oldage Home, we often guide families on how to handle these conversations with grace and patience, so that the transition is gentle for everyone.